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When your morning alarm jolts you awake, the most effortless response is to roll over, retrieve your smartphone and begin what my partner refers to as doomscrolling. Apparently, this term has become so popular that it has claimed its own entry in the Merriam Webster Dictionary—defined as spending “excessive time online scrolling through news or other content that makes one feel sad, anxious, angry, etc.” Sound familiar?
Last fall, I published an article to the Hilltop Monitor exploring the benefits of a digital detox. In that article, I noted some of the benefits I have taken from stepping away from my smartphone and relocating my time elsewhere. This has most notably changed my morning routine and my night routine, which previously revolved around the aforementioned habit of scrolling deeper into anxiety! Since writing my initial article, I have begun reading at night and running through a basic self-care routine each morning. In this article, I’ll be sharing the new habits I’ve formed and how they’ve improved my life.
Gratitude List
After making the choice to step further away from my smartphone, I have started each morning by creating a mental gratitude list. I aim to think of three unique things that I’m thankful for. This can be as simple as appreciating the nice weather when I see through the window that icy roads won’t affect my drive to school. Implementing this exercise has significantly improved my mood by shifting my attention towards positive thoughts that make me eager to navigate the day!
Self-Love List
In a similar vein of positivity, I follow up my gratitude list with a compilation of three things I love about myself. I am to include one recent thought I’ve had, emotion I’ve felt and choice I’ve made. My therapist suggested this template after noticing I focus on skills, abilities and interests rather than intrinsic qualities when discussing what I love about myself. Taking this new approach to self-love has improved my self-esteem by not only highlighting my positive qualities, but encouraging me to reflect on what I don’t love and replacing it with something that I do. This has led to less insecurity and more confidence in my day-to-day life.
Thought-Reframing (CBT)
As a full-time student with a full-time job and a maxed out calendar, I tend to get overwhelmed. This can lead to burnout and feelings of discouragement or self-doubt. One approach I’ve taken is to start my morning by considering one dreaded task I’ll need to complete that day, then practicing thought-reframing to reflect on a more helpful way to view my situation. For example, “Today, I have to waste time going to the bank to deposit cash even though I barely have time to eat,” can be rephrased as “Today, I will choose to go to the bank to deposit money as an act of responsibility and independence.” This approach reminds me that I do not need to loathe my daily routine because I have the power to shape it.
Pray (In Your Own Way)
Regardless of your religious affiliation (or lack thereof), the practice of prayer falls under a broad scope and can be implemented in a number of ways. I believe it can improve the life of anyone seeking change. Each morning, I recite prayers commonly highlighted in recovery programs, focusing on the importance of surrendering control—something I struggle with as someone who tries to anticipate every possible outcome and avoid the unwanted and unexpected. Doing so has helped relieve my anxiety by reminding myself that I am never truly in control. Instead, I should spend my energy focusing on what I can change without stressing myself out over things that I can’t.
Early Start on Daily Tasks
By the time I’ve completed the previous tasks, I’m now awake enough to achieve my first wins of the day! If you’re anything like me, your morning is completely loaded and you don’t have time to solve world peace before lunch time. This is why I aim to make my first wins of the day small and attainable. This includes making my bed, maintaining or improving the state of my room (even if it’s in a small way) and filling up my 64 oz. water bottle to ensure proper hydration throughout the day!
Conclusion
Each of these practices allow me to better myself in ways that are meaningful but realistic—and as someone with far too much on my plate to keep it all in my brain, apps like Finch helped me stay organized and build these exercises into long term habits. I now have my morning routine memorized and can start my days with optimism and positivity without even needing the reminder!
Starting each morning with a positive outlook has been a complete game-changer for my health and productivity. If nothing else, I hope these examples give you a few ideas of how you can gift your time back to yourself and practice self-care.